June 1, 2016 UPDATE:
The book is in, what I hope will be, its final stages before publication.
It is bigger, and I hope better, after another three months of refinement.
Ms. Creant will now (possibly) be deemed appropriate for the YA group, as well as being useful to educators.
I expect a September release.
I set out to write the definitive guide to women.
Am I an expert on the subject? Statistics would seem to indicate that I have THIRTY TIMES the experience of the average North American male.
Ms. Creant, the book, began as a way to vent my frustration after befriending a severely damaged thirty-nine year old woman, whose duplicitous nature drove me nuts. It was because of her that I read The Wisdom of Menopause looking for answers. What I did not realize until after I had finished reading the book, was that I understood women better than most understood themselves.
As my personality type comes up as ENTP “The Visionary”, I am one of those people who can step outside the box to see the big picture. Having just extricated myself from a stagnant eight year relationship, I was just beginning to adjust when this Ms. Creant came along. Betrayal and resentment are great motivators, if you can hang onto those feelings long enough to complete a book.
Thinking that I might be able to save my two young nephews from making the same mistakes I have made, I set out to write my relationship memoirs. However as I did, I found myself trying to analyse each of those failed relationships, and began to see patterns emerging. The book was evolving into a humorous narrative non-fiction tell-all with hard science that seems to support its thesis. Ms. Creant became a “book of life” or a “book of everything” somewhere along the way, but it always comes back to its central point. Ms. Creant is the book I wish someone had given me as a young man. It is a game changer. It can help society. It may help civilization.
Men the world over are constantly blindsided by the actions of women. Many men are permanently scarred by these experiences. The average guy in North America has less than ten sexual partners, and perhaps three live-with relationships before marriage. Someone had to write a book to help them understand women better, so that they can find closure, avoid negative patterns of behavior, and choose more wisely starting at an early age.
I found Christiane Northrup’s book to be a forced read- a text-book and anything but a page turner. I did not want that for my book.
Women who read the early edition of Ms. Creant made comments like:
“I did not like reading about these women, but I want my son to know that they are out there.”
“There is so much more to the facts of life than just how babies are made. My husband needs to read this.”
“I did not like some of what was being said, but it was not wrong. I could see many of these traits in women I know.”
“I loved the memoirs! I could not put them down.”
Ms. Creant was designed to be for everyone.
It is factual, informative, controversial, helpful, unique and fun. It features stories with sex, violence, and betrayal. It has broad appeal.
The design criteria:
1) It should assist parents in preparing their sons to go out into the world on their own.
2) It should be an easy and fun read. Few people choose to read a text-book.
3) The stories should be hard to put down, and the analysis of each must be brief.
4) The underlying themes should continue throughout each chapter.
5) It should appeal to men of ALL AGES and curious women who are not easily offended- particularly those with sons coming of age.
6) All post-pubescent males should be able to read it or just skim it, and be better informed for their effort.
Although I believe it to be PG13, some parents may believe the language and content to be destructive to a young mind. To them I say: Go on the internet to see what your kids are looking at. Concerned parents who wish to develop a moderated dialog with a young son about girls, sex, drugs, alcohol, acceptable behavior, and the importance of education, can read passages of the book with their son, and then discuss the subject matter.
I wanted the book to be something a parent could buy for themselves, and then pass along to their young adult son who does not enjoy reading. The 16 pt. sub-headings and the index will allow this youngster to skim to what interests him most. Hopefully, he accidentally discovers that reading can be fun, especially when the topic is girls.
7) There must be positive messages.
Stay in school, abstinence, practice safe sex, avoid drugs and alcohol, work on improving yourself, avoid date rape situations, there is a difference between making love and having sex, choose wisely and settle carefully, are just some of the messages contained in the book.
8) There should not be any religious bias or slant but learning about different philosophies is encouraged.
9) The science is a necessary component, but it must be kept to a minimum and presented in an easily understandood form.
10) No matter what the level of the reader; Ms. Creant must be thought provoking!