The secret might just be never allowing COMPLACENCY to enter your relationship.
Easier said; THAN DONE!
TRUE LOVE, what is it?
That old couple sitting on a bench holding hands after a lifetime together- true love is in their eyes. He looks into her eyes and still sees the beauty that once was. She looks into his eyes and still sees the man who could raise her heart rate with a glance. She still makes him laugh and he still makes her feel safe.
My book looks at relationships in each decade in our lives. Teens with raging hormones learning about ATTRACTION; to twenty-somethings learning about SELECTION; on to the thirty-somethings learning about SETTLING and everything afterward to our final days.
The bio-chemistry of the pair bond is explained and science proves that it begins to sag after about two years, so true love must be more than the biological responses that kick-started the relationship.
TRUE LOVE begins with a GOOD MATCH.
Opposites may attract and each individual in the relationship may serve to offset the other’s negatives- creating a BALANCED COUPLE that is better and stronger together than individually.
However, these couples do not seem to be able to weather life’s storms, for as soon as the going gets tough and the couple is divided on an issue, the worst character traits of each surface often creating wounds that may never heal.
A good match will be less about initial ATTRACTION and more about quality SELECTION and SETTLING carefully. To accomplish this, you must TRULY KNOW the other.
COMMONALITY means that you will spend more time together as a couple, deriving enjoyment from the same things and you will have fewer things to argue about.
Over time this couple associates JOY with being in the company of their significant other. There is nowhere else that they would rather be. They are never bored. They have absolutely no reason to consider being unfaithful as they are SATISFIED on every level.
This may be how to BEGIN the journey to TRUE LOVE.
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With the passage of time, the world changes people.
Question: How did that old couple holding hands on the bench, weather so many of life’s storms without allowing events to damage their relationship?
ANSWER: THEIR COMMONALITY ALWAYS PULLED THEM THROUGH!
This couple is capable of living in a tent, cooking canned foods on a camp stove with no money and yet they remain HAPPY to be there with each other.
They have FAITH in each other so they BELIEVE that things will improve.
They have the PATIENCE to wait for brighter days.
They TRUST that both will eventually succeed in their endeavors.
They RESPECT the chosen path of their partner.
Their partner is a PERFECT match for them.
Their partner never required CHANGE.
They never had EXPECTATIONS of their partner.
They ACKNOWLEDGE their own CHOICES.
They are GRATEFUL for their partner CHOOSING them.
They are CONTENT with the CHOICE they made.
They LEARNED and GREW together.
They KNOW how FORTUNATE they are.
They are THANKFUL for their luck.
They were incapable of MANIPULATING the other.
They never had to LIE to the other.
They never wanted to or needed to keep SECRETS from the other.
They were capable of total HONESTY with each other.
They APPRECIATE all things- big or small that their partner does for them.
They WORKED for and achieved TRUE LOVE because it was EASY for them due to COMMONALITY.
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Happiness is for the brave among us.
You have to take some risks to achieve happiness.
You can minimize those risks by not thinking with your glands.
I TRULY LOVE my readers.
Have a great week and the next time you say “I LOVE YOU”; really mean it.