The Holiday Vibe

I knew I would be spending Christmas time away from family and friends this year but I was very determined to FEEL festive. I started playing Christmas music and posting nothing but holiday related things on Facebook. I rejected thoughts of posting about serious topics in favor of spreading some laughter and joy.

IT WORKED! I got the Christmas spirit or the holiday bug, whichever you prefer, and I did not have to buy or receive gifts in the traditional sense to achieve this state of hope, wellbeing, and willingness to smile at strangers.

I awoke this morning thinking about all the children who would be excited about Santa’s visit and how they would either wake their parents or creep quietly to the tree to see what was under it. I forced myself to dwell on the POSITIVE.

For those readers who do not know me, I am more aware than most about the plight of humans around the globe–especially children. I know there are many who did not have this experience this morning, but for today at least, I will not dwell on this as I do during the other fifty or so weeks of the year.

This is not an act of selfishness, but one of self-preservation. Your spirit, soul or chakra, whichever you prefer, can become tired and you need to take some time occasionally to recharge it. Some do this through religious practices while others explore their spiritual side through the development of a personal philosophy of life–whatever works. The key is to acknowledge that you have this part of you, and to listen carefully to it in this world full of craziness which is designed to test this part of you.

Early this morning, I went outside for some fresh air just as a woman was passing by walking her dog on the sidewalk out front . She looked at me and said, “Merry Christmas.” I smiled and returned those same words back to her. Both our days will be better because of this moment. This is the KEY which we need all people everywhere to get back in touch with.

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS CAN CHANGE THE WORLD but you have to be aware of them when they are happening, and acknowledge each and every one of them.

This chance meeting created a moment of clarity within me which I will share with everyone here.

This “Christian” holiday which has its roots in Pagan rituals, need not be yet another reason for division, because the FEELING of joy to the world and goodwill toward all humans is a global, if not universal constant. The FEELING transcends the labels we mere humans use in our feeble attempts to quantify, understand, and compartmentalize everything in and outside of this world. The FEELING of Christmas will fade only when we let the evildoers of the world engage us and affect us. This does not mean you can live inside a bubble of obliviousness and remain happy in there–quite the opposite in fact–you must go out into the real world to influence it with the VIBE you project.

The evildoers on the planet are a dedicated group who work really hard to spread NEGATIVITY in the form of lies, hate, deceit and propaganda to illicit a response that will give rise to fear. Only our worry and fears can lead us into violent conflicts–something they know all to well.

In 2017, those of us around the world who want peace, freedom, and security for all people, need to start anew to beat them at their own game. Smiling and wishing people well, no matter what the circumstance or how difficult it is, will undo them because of their lust for attention. Self-important egotists are shattered when they discover they no longer have an audience. Let’s turn off their media. Let’s disengage from their debates which are just another form of conflict which only serves them. Their use of these tools has conditioned us to believe we live in a state of perpetual conflict which is simply not true unless we allow it.

FEELING, carrying, and spreading peace and joy is a CHOICE which does not have to be reserved just for the holiday season, and it is the most powerful weapon ever created to wage a war against war.

To all who wish for Peace on Earth, just show goodwill toward men.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year; Saint Nicholas Day; Fiesta of Our Lady of Guadalupe; St. Lucia Day; Hanukkah; Three Kings Day/Epiphany; Boxing Day; Kwanzaa; Omisoka; Yule; Saturnalia–whichever you prefer–we are not so different.

I know I had previously posted that I probably would not be writing again until the New Year but let’s just say the spirit moved me.

My book:

Ms. Creant: The Wrong Doers!

Life With Women: The Long-Awaited Instruction Manual

This book was created for everyone, from young adults to seniors. It was written from a male’s point of view, speaking to men who are endlessly struggling to understand the opposite sex. For women, this is a fascinating journey inside the male psyche. The book gives a young reader a glimpse of the future, with a recommended timeline for key life events. Mature readers, who have already experienced much of what is discussed in the book, should come away with a new-found understanding, and perhaps even closure. Ms. Creant is a controversial, entertaining, yet informative look at everything that influences human behaviour including: relationships, life, health, biology, philosophy, sociology, theology, politics, genetics—even physics. E. A. Barker shares twenty-four “inappropriate” stories of life with women. The author based these stories of women behaving badly on his real life experiences, spanning four decades of his search for an ideal partner. The lessons taken away from the book will serve to help readers make better choices, become more aware, grow, and change—at any stage of life.

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Blog 10.2: I am salmon. Hear me gurgle?

What if awareness and obliviousness is the same thing?

Why do I persist in swimming against the current?

This is part two.

My study of people led me to become slightly detached socially. I would prefer to sit on the outside looking in so as not to influence the outcome of the experiment that I was observing. While I had, and have the ability to mix and mingle with the best of them, my preference is to watch others make the attempt. It is far more entertaining. Live social interaction between young men and women in clubs was at the top of my list. A room filled to bursting with horny people and yet only a very few leave with someone. Two attractive people lock eyes; one musters up enough nerve to approach the other; one says something stupid and then they part- not to make the effort again that night.

There is a paradigm in psychology that states:

“People with the highest IQ’s are the most prone to substance abuse. They abuse alcohol or drugs to come down to the level of the rest of humanity in an effort to better fit in.”

Is it possible that all the alcoholics and drug users that I encounter are the pinnacle of human development? As a youngster, I was told that I possessed a genius level IQ. I rarely drink and never do any type of drug. Could it be that the substance abusers are so far above me intellectually, that I cannot comprehend their thought processes? Perhaps I have had it all wrong throughout my entire life. Maybe I am the “dim bulb” on the tree struggling to understand humanity without the necessary smarts to comprehend that which is right in front of me. It would explain much.

“Idle hands are the devil’s workshop.”

IT IS SIMPLER to follow your glands and have a child at an early age; be a slave to your job in order to pay the bills and get divorced ten years later only to do it again with someone else. You will never have idle hands and your brain will reorganize itself to the life you have chosen. Most of the inhabitants of the planet choose this for themselves and that is why they nest and attempt to hide from the outside world usually without success. They romanticize their relationships: spouses, pets and children- picturing themselves surrounded by loving creatures and people in their golden years without ever acknowledging the realities of their choices until it is too late. This is why old ladies are found dead with their corpses eaten by their pets.

IT IS BETTER to live obliviously. Regrets will not surface until middle or old age, if at all. You look back and wonder if you could have done more with your life, had you only chosen differently. You will live, die and will be forgotten like billions before without leaving a timeless legacy.

The young well-educated people that could change the world end up too busy to make a difference. They genuinely embrace being oblivious. I hope they like the oblivion that they are helping to quickly push humanity toward.

I push awareness in a world that is content to be oblivious.

I push knowledge in a world that is content to be misinformed.

I push tolerance in an intolerant world.

I push change in a world that is resistant to it.

I push rationality on the irrational.

I push for abstinence in a world of full of addicts.

I push for responsibility in an irresponsible world.

I push being scrupulous in an unscrupulous world.

I push spiritual health in a world that has stopped believing.

I push physical health in a world that likes to eat drug soaked fat.

I push mental health to people that are intent on doing crazy things.

I push emotional health to people with an endless capacity for self-doubt and self-pity.

I push for excellence in a world that strives for mediocrity.

I push humor in a world that often does not get the joke.

Perhaps it is time I started PULLING.

Is the Dalai Lama aware or just oblivious because of his meditative serene environment?

Are any of the sciences aware or are they oblivious because of the singular vantage point of their discipline?

Is the family guy who is a good husband and father oblivious or is he aware that he is doing what he was meant to do- always swimming downstream?

I am a flawed human as all humans seem to be. I pose questions looking for answers and am rarely surprised by the facts when they are published. I genuinely hope that I will have learned all the requisite lessons in this life so I do not have to come back here again. I appreciate the fleeting bits of love, joy, goodness, laughter, happiness and SERENITY that come my way, but overall, this place is no fun. If there is a higher plane of existence, I hope I am ready to be allowed in.

If Earth and this plane of existence were a vacation destination, I would rate it one star in a five star rating system.

I am incapable of following the words of Reinhold Niebuhr. Instead, I remain the UNWISE one who cannot ACCEPT that mankind must go obliviously into oblivion. I will continue to swim upstream in the hope that I can influence a select few to go out and change the world before the human race reaches its point of no return.

My book:

Ms. Creant: The Wrong Doers!

Life with Women: the long awaited instruction manual.

Talks of relationships, health, life, biology, philosophy, sociology, theology, genetics- even physics as well as how “INTO EACH LIFE A LITTLE RAIN MUST FALL.”

I wrote this on a dismal rainy day.

I am fine.

Really; I am.

I know this reads like a suicide note. {He wrote- laughing out loud.}

Writing a blog is a better way of venting than getting drunk and having a domestic; which, should you not be aware of the statistics, is the number one call to the police across the planet on a daily basis.

I promise to write the next one on a glorious sunny summer day after getting laid just to continue the experiment with a different set of controls.

See you next week.

E. A.

P. S. Does anyone have a morally loose woman that you could refer?

SNEAK PREVIEW OF THE BOOK! Ms. Creant: The Wrong Doers.

 

 


 


June 1, 2016 UPDATE:

The book is in, what I hope will be, its final stages before publication.

It is bigger, and I hope better, after another three months of refinement.

Ms. Creant will now (possibly) be deemed appropriate for the YA group, as well as being useful to educators.

I expect a September release.

Overview

I set out to write the definitive guide to women.

Am I an expert on the subject? Statistics would seem to indicate that I have THIRTY TIMES the experience of the average North American male.

Ms. Creant, the book, began as a way to vent my frustration after befriending a severely damaged thirty-nine year old woman, whose duplicitous nature drove me nuts. It was because of her that I read The Wisdom of Menopause looking for answers. What I did not realize until after I had finished reading the book, was that I understood women better than most understood themselves.

As my personality type comes up as ENTP “The Visionary”, I am one of those people who can step outside the box to see the big picture. Having just extricated myself from a stagnant eight year relationship, I was just beginning to adjust when this Ms. Creant came along. Betrayal and resentment are great motivators, if you can hang onto those feelings long enough to complete a book.

Thinking that I might be able to save my two young nephews from making the same mistakes I have made, I set out to write my relationship memoirs. However as I did, I found myself trying to analyse each of those failed relationships, and began to see patterns emerging. The book was evolving into a humorous narrative non-fiction tell-all with hard science that seems to support its thesis. Ms. Creant became a “book of life” or a “book of everything” somewhere along the way, but it always comes back to its central point. Ms. Creant is the book I wish someone had given me as a young man. It is a game changer. It can help society. It may help civilization.

Men the world over are constantly blindsided by the actions of women. Many men are permanently scarred by these experiences. The average guy in North America has less than ten sexual partners, and perhaps three live-with relationships before marriage. Someone had to write a book to help them understand women better, so that they can find closure, avoid negative patterns of behavior, and choose more wisely starting at an early age.

I found Christiane Northrup’s book to be a forced read- a text-book and anything but a page turner. I did not want that for my book.

Women who read the early edition of Ms. Creant made comments like:

“I did not like reading about these women, but I want my son to know that they are out there.”

“There is so much more to the facts of life than just how babies are made. My husband needs to read this.”

“I did not like some of what was being said, but it was not wrong. I could see many of these traits in women I know.”

“I loved the memoirs! I could not put them down.” 

Ms. Creant was designed to be for everyone.

It is factual, informative, controversial, helpful, unique and fun. It features stories with sex, violence, and betrayal. It has broad appeal.

The design criteria:

1) It should assist parents in preparing their sons to go out into the world on their own.

2) It should be an easy and fun read. Few people choose to read a text-book.

3) The stories should be hard to put down, and the analysis of each must be brief.

4) The underlying themes should continue throughout each chapter.

5) It should appeal to men of ALL AGES and curious women who are not easily offended- particularly those with sons coming of age.

6) All post-pubescent males should be able to read it or just skim it, and be better informed for their effort.

Although I believe it to be PG13, some parents may believe the language and content to be destructive to a young mind. To them I say: Go on the internet to see what your kids are looking at. Concerned parents who wish to develop a moderated dialog with a young son about girls, sex, drugs, alcohol, acceptable behavior, and the importance of education, can read passages of the book with their son, and then discuss the subject matter.

I wanted the book to be something a parent could buy for themselves, and then pass along to their young adult son who does not enjoy reading. The 16 pt. sub-headings and the index will allow this youngster to skim to what interests him most. Hopefully, he accidentally discovers that reading can be fun, especially when the topic is girls.

7) There must be positive messages.

Stay in school, abstinence, practice safe sex, avoid drugs and alcohol, work on improving yourself, avoid date rape situations, there is a difference between making love and having sex, choose wisely and settle carefully, are just some of the messages contained in the book.

8) There should not be any religious bias or slant but learning about different philosophies is encouraged.

9) The science is a necessary component, but it must be kept to a minimum and presented in an easily understandood form.

10) No matter what the level of the reader; Ms. Creant must be thought provoking!